They have one daughter named “Kristen”. (She has other children she hasn’t met or raised.) She doesn’t work and lives selfishly and lavishly.
My mother-in-law is always supportive of Kristen, but she’s been amazing to all of her grandchildren. Her mother-in-law now wants to transfer her family villa to her husband and leave her remaining property to her husband’s brother. The move will cost hundreds of thousands of dollars in fees and taxes.
We have agreed to undertake this to keep this cottage family-friendly. We have managed and invested in its improvement over the last few years. our kids enjoy it.
The problem is, my mother-in-law wants us to give a lot of money to fund Kristen’s education. Without this money, she threatens to sell the cottage. This means that her property will belong to her brother. Our children will be left with nothing. This imbalance hurts my heart. We have always walked the royal road.
This situation could potentially put an end to the relationship between her and our family, but based on my parents’ own negligence and selfishness, I have decided to use my hard-earned money to fund Kristen’s education. I can’t seem to understand it.
Should I get over my anxiety about this family’s history of favoritism, or should I walk away and ruin my relationships and the chance to protect what’s important to us? Can we see a way forward?
it hurts: It looks like your mother-in-law has offered to sell this cottage to you, possibly at a discounted price. It’s her job to do what she does with the money she receives from this property. (Would you mind if she mentioned she was going to use the money to fund a photo safari in Africa?)
If you really want this cottage, go ahead with the transfer. However, be aware that there are many other cottages that offer opportunities for you and your husband to build fresh, free-flowing experiences with your children.
In short, don’t give up the royal road. You cannot control or influence your mother-in-law’s estate plans. You and your husband live a good life full of abundance and choice.
Your own well-earned wealth is your children’s inheritance, and with this inheritance they are richly rewarded with stable parents and positive experiences, leading their lives along the royal road. will walk.
Dear Amy: A friend and I went to a church meeting in the evening and were served coffee and dessert. We asked the hostess if the coffee was decaf and she said it was decaf. She spoke so clearly that we knew we had heard her correctly. We both had coffee.
I couldn’t sleep for hours that night. I was still awake at 4am! My friend also said he was up most of the night. On Sunday, when we confronted the hostess, she simply dismissed it as “it has nothing to do with it.” She was lying!
I know it was just a few hours of sleep deprivation, but what if either of us had caffeine allergies or heart problems? Never lie about what you are about to consume.
It was disappointing: Agree. You can believe that the distinctive orange rim around the coffee pot actually represents something. Furthermore, you should not be “ridiculed” for raising legitimate concerns.
Dear Amy: “I don’t know” I wanted to know how to get along with my boyfriend’s college friends. You blame the man even if it’s not shown, and like many women, neither you nor she is to blame for any personal failures or character flaws.
Your advice is poison.
Brian: These guys got drunk and bashed their friends.
This is completely within their rights. Her boyfriend could have made more of an effort to include her in the group, but I suggested that if “Unsure” didn’t like it, they should avoid these gatherings.
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